3/17/2013

It’s my child, no way….





Parental love is unmatched in human kindness, unparallelled, priceless and only one way, to give all they had.  Eve Yap wrote an article in the Sunday Times on the special love that parents sacrificed their precious children that come in all forms and shapes and sizes. She blurted out with a long list of disorders that children could be inflicted with, Antley Bixler syndrome, Pyruvate dehydrogenase complex deficiency, Cornelia de Lange syndrome and spinal muscular atrophy, just to name a few, would have murdered the parents trying to pronounce these words and understand what they are. These are names of serious disorders that threaten the normal physical and mental development of children and are often live threatening. Children struck with such disorders need special care, full day attention, costly operations, special diet and may have their lives terminated at the slightest mishap.

It is at times like this, when the parents are most vulnerable, physically, financially, emotionally drained and psychologically in despair that the best in human kindness and parental love are displayed beyond belief. These parents gave up jobs to stay by their babies, struggle with debts to pay for their diet, operations and care, and suffered emotional and psychological stigmatisation for having difficult babies. Hurt, stressed out, emotionally and financially, they soldiered on with babies that may not even reach pre schools. Forget about the straight As and the beautiful family photographs to show around. The lives of these parents evolved around the lives of their babies. Nothing else matters. They live each day for their special babies.

One couple were asked three times over a period of five years if they wanted the child to be resuscitated. The answer was Yes. ‘As long as her child wills it, they will fight alongside her.’

Parents in such difficult parenthood conundrum could take the easy way out like our govt policy on foreign talents. If the locals are not good enough, replace them with foreign talents, the best that money can buy. Why struggle and waste time on one that is not going to make it? If only parents were so mean and calculative, things would be very different. But no parents worth the name of being called mother or father would abandon their children when their children needed them most. Parental love supercedes all things, particularly human greed for money and financial well being. 

Thank God humans are not made the way politicians are made. Politicians pride themselves by calling them tough decisions to make for the good of country and people. The meaning of self sacrificing parents does not come with what is in it for me or how much. The dire the situation, the greater the love and devotion and sacrifice from the parents.

12 comments:

Anonymous said...

redbean
The PAPigs are not my parents lah.
I've never bothered turning up for any of their funerals.
WHY?

They say I die it's my business.
"$ingapore does not owe you a living."

I say you die it's also your business. Why the fark is my tax money paying for their funeral?

Chua Chin Leng aka redbean said...

Thanks for the half cup of kopi. Still a nice thought on a Sunday morning. I will make do with one egg and one slice of bread. :)

Anonymous said...

RB u can have two eggs lar as I just clicked but be careful not to consume too many eggs at your age :-)

Anonymous said...

Seriously speaking singapore is run as a company so there is always talk of trade off in economic term but not in human impact or terms so very different lar. I used to admire the old PAP and a very very strong supporter but today no more. I am with the opposition and looking forward for a change in government

Chua Chin Leng aka redbean said...

Thanks Anon 10:31. Actually 1 click is 1c. Just found out. Flipping the content pages may be a bit more. Cheers.

In social media, the anger against the PAP is unbelieveable like it is the most hated party by the people. But this is only one side of the story in cyberspace. If this anger is widespread, PAP will not survive 2016.

Just waiting to have a better feel on May Day at Hong Lim.

Anonymous said...

Sure RB, no problem with the ads. This is like spending OPM, spending the advertisers money. I can be very generous. Will click everytime I am here and click again before leaving.

Making sure you have your kopi and tea for working so hard.

Anonymous said...

Better feel at Honglim park.

You shud open two champagnes to celebrate if the crowd is more than two thousands. Chances will be You get to be be disappointed.

Ⓜatilah $ingapura⚠️ said...

If you bring in "love" to the political mechanism, the whole darn thing will collapse.

You cannot connect how parents love their kids (love ==> action, not feeling. Love, the feeling comes AS A RESULT of love, the action. i.e no action, then you don't really "love" you only say you do) to what governments must do to ensure the proper sustainability of life, liberty and economy of the nation-state.

@anon 1031

Eating hi-cholesterol foods doesn't necessary increase the blood serum level of cholesterol.

Ⓜatilah $ingapura⚠️ said...

Clicked 4 ads for you. Wah lau. It took me 5 mins to do that. Had to reconfigure my connection and launch a different browser.

Enjoy your kopi, and the re-fills!

Happy Sunday!

Anonymous said...

Our grandchildren will suffer because of all these influx of immigrants. How many want to grow up in a crowded, harsh and competitive environment?

Anonymous said...

Redbean, just bought you some kopi. Have a cuppa on me.

Keep writing. Thanks.

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